Tuesday, September 6, 2011

Do You Speak?

I think one of the main things about acclimating to small town life is getting used to local habits and vernacular.  It's those little things that can really define if you are a local inhabitant or merely a transplant.  For example let's discuss the fine art of, "speaking", while driving.  

The first real rule to know is that you speak to everyone.  Yes, it doesn't matter if you know them or not.  They deserve at least the one finger wave.  You know.....lifting one finger off of the steering wheel to acknowledge a fellow driver passing by. 


Now....if you really want to get friendly, you can give a two finger wave.  What is the difference you ask?   Well, maybe it is just that certain something eminating from the passing car.  Perhaps you know them just a tad.  Or, maybe you just have a little more enthusiasm to offer. 


Speaking of enthusiasm, let's talk about lifting all fingers off of the wheel.  That bit of whimsy when you feel all giddy about waving to someone.  Or, perhaps, they gave you a big wave and you want to send one in return. 


There have been times when I have actually lifted my hand off of the wheel, yes dad it's true, to speak to someone.  But, let's forget that ever happened and keep it on the down low.  

However you choose to acknowledge your fellow man, let it be in kindness. 

Speak, give a wave, and a little back.  

Peace

55 comments:

  1. Of course then there is always the "nod", which is the favorite in my town with the men folk!

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  2. Full hand wave here neighbor! Have a great day...

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  3. Yep. Here you get the few-finger-flap off the wheel, and if it's a man driving..you'll get a respectful head nod :)
    Kinda nice!

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  4. love this!!! and yes, i give 'the nod' at 4-way intersections too. :)

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  5. There are places where you have to wave to everyone. It took some getting used to for me, but now I explain it to other newcomers.

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  6. Sooo many cities I've live in - you get a one finger wave done a little differently.

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  7. Your small town life sounds like our island life! ...

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  8. Casual wave to EVERy passing car here on the island.


    Love and casual wave,

    Sharon

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  9. Well, I didn't know about the finger gestures. How ever I do make a point of trying to gesture to most in town, especially if I know them.

    Common courtesy and all that you know.

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  10. I love country towns....so friendly...so inviting..unfortunatley in the city they give you a little different wave....

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  11. Or there's the opposite of the nod, the raised head, which amounts to a chin job. My old buddy Fred said he knew he could never be friends with somebody who gave chin jobs. It was the supreme act of snobbery--well, one of them. Yessir, if you're a chin jobber, you're on Fred's black list.

    I love this topic. I'm glad people still pay attention to such things, which I'm pretty sure are bigger than they seem.

    Of course, the Advanced Placement Test in all this is the gravel road on a curve, on a ridge, where two cars meet and there's only room for one. Who backs up?

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  12. Most give nods here on our island, but, somehow, my full hand goes up for a wave. Interesting post!

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  13. I'm usually too slow noticing the other car, so I do the nod most of all. My dad, he does the two fingers, but lifted off the wheel in a sort of salute.

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  14. Farmchick -- Southerns sure are friendly. Always a car/truck wave or a friendly hello as you pass on town streets. Don't have to know them. I was raised in Michigan -- they seldom wave a car/truck hello or say one as you pass them on town streets. Only if you know them. Weird how cultures are so different from place to place. -- barbara

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  15. Your message is loud and clear! I like the way you shared it with us. Clever.

    Velva

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  16. We speak to everyone around here too! It may be a city but we're still a little backwards around here...ask the folks nearby! You also have to acknowledge everyone you meet on the street...even when you're out for a run in the morning!

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  17. LOL! My hand never leaves the wheel except for a good friend that just moved away. All others are the single finger or the up fingers for neighbors.
    Others just get a smile and a nod.

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  18. My husband is Italian so he always "talks" with his hands! It makes for some interesting car rides when he is driving..lol.

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  19. So true... It is good that I am not driving!

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  20. love this. talk with the hand. we're so used to thinking of rude gestures, so i really enjoyed this little piece honoring those which are life-affirming.

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  21. We used to live in a place where everyone waved to everyone when passing in the car. It was just something that they did. And I found it very friendly. It doesn't happen in the city much. People slow down in the country and take the time to acknowledge others. It's really nice.

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  22. I think this is the way of life in a lot of my parts now. Thanks for the lesson!

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  23. Just how small is this place? I love it....think it's cute! If I'm guessing right, I bet you give the full size wave to everyone..
    shug

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  24. Ha -- good post! Once again, you're reminding me of my days in the Heartland. Consider yourself being given a full one-handed wave. (I still have one hand on the keyboard.)

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  25. Interesting...sounds like a friendly bunch in your little town.

    p.s. check your engine light

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  26. Lap Dog - LOL! It is a valve and I promise I have had it checked...though it is pesky and comes on from time to time!

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  27. North - I have lived in the city and received the very unfriendly one finger wave before. Not pleasant!

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  28. Banjo - I might have to do a little more research on the advanced placement test issues!

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  29. Love this! A new language for me . . .

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  30. I love this. We lived in a small town for 17 yrs. while raising our boys and am familiar with the waves. Your discription tickled me.
    Thanks for visiting my blog. I loved your "Go Green" post and am envious of your great pictures.

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  31. Better than the one finger salute I have seen other drivers give to people around here. Nice post.

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  32. haha I LOVED your post! i was totally NOT used to all this waving, nodding your head or even speak to total strangers! It is the beauty of rural America! haha

    Great great post and i'm glad you like my tub ;-)
    Leontien

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  33. The next topic is what do you do when you are walking and someone in a passing car waves. I put a big smile on my face and wave back enthusiastically, even though 99 percent of the time I have no idea who it is.

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  34. Love it!

    I grew up in a small town, too. We don't do the finger wave, just a regular old wave up here in WI. Maybe I'll try something new tomorrow! Hate to shake things up too much though... Heh heh...

    ;)

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  35. What a cute post! I had never thought about any of this but I do the same type of thing...not exactly like you, but you did make me chuckle when I saw the photos, loved it!! xo

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  36. Oh MY Goodness! You hit it on the head with this finger waving thing! I thought I was completely out of the loop when I moved here. Turned out I was. I didn't know this hand/finger waving technique method at ALL!!!
    I may now have it mastered. And have only offended a few lately by not doing it quite right(sigh);D

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  37. Here they honk. Which kind of drives me nuts. I am not a honker. I wave though - hand on the wheel ;-)

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  38. We speak round these parts, too...nice to know what I'm sayin', though! Thanks.

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  39. Love this post. It reminds me of my father who told us that out of respect we should always wave to the highway patrolmen, so that's what I continue to do even though Daddy has been gone for ten years. Wonder if the highway patrolmen get a lot of waves.

    We live in the country outside a small town, so we're constantly waving to folks. Gotta love it!


    Speaking of loving it, before I could post this comment, I just had to listen to a few of your playlist songs...love all of them.

    Diane in North Carolina

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  40. The traffic is so bad here that if you lift your hands off the steering wheel then the car will crash!!!
    But in small villages things like these do prevail!
    Have a wonderful week:)

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  41. Thank you for this interesting glimpse into the lexikon of 'small town life' very much.

    Please have a good Thursday you all.

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  42. i try and greet everyone with a smile....


    kindness matters

    happy to stop by today, my friend

    sending love,
    kary and teddy

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  43. Sounds like you live in a very friendly place. :)

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  44. We give the two finger "peace sign" wave here especially if we are riding the bikes. We try to steer clear of the single finger wave...it usually means something else like North pointed out ;). But if we do get teh single finger salute...we tell them to wave with all five fingers next time! hahah

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  45. It seems people are in such a hurry here where we live, that they often do not take the time for kind hand gestures. Unkind ones - at times - but kind ones, not so much. Sad but true.

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  46. I understand completely I live in the country and I love the hand talk. B

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  47. And that's the way it is here in Bluff Country. A a matter of fact, we went to a play last year title "How To Speak Minnesotan" which covered this very same ground (among other things). :)

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  48. I would love to live in a town like that.....when I walk my dogs here I always say hi but 1/2 the people dont even lift thier eyes off the ground...sad:(

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  49. I wish I lived in a small town again. The only finger people wave around here isn't a good one.

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  50. Absolutely this is a requirement of North Dakota living. I give a big smile to...even if I don't particularly know or LIKE the person. It's just best to be friendly.

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  51. Quite amusing post when I read it first but then I saw the meaning behind it. We use anything from one to four fingers to acknowledge another driver on the road whether they have done you a favour or allowing a favour.

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  52. I've gotten plenty of middle finger waves in my life. Do they count too??????

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  53. You pretty much covered all of the highway greeting forms :).

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  54. Ah yes, the various finger and hand waves prevail where we live also. I'm always glad to leave the big city on the rare occasion I have to go there and where the only finger wave is half a peace sign.

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