Friday, December 30, 2011

Savoring and Contemplating

This holiday season has been one of adjustments for me and my family.  While it started out pretty great, with a visit to my mom and dad's house, it ended with the loss of a very, very dear friend.  

Our family physician, and close personal friend, passed away over the holidays.  




I would be remiss if I didn't explain his persona just a bit.  He was a small town physician who served the community with his whole heart.  He brought his dog to work with him each day and more than a couple of times both of my children have crawled under his desk to snuggle with said dog.  All with Doc's complete approval.  During times of sickness he has told me to bring my children, or even myself, directly to his home for care. 
When I first moved to Smalltownland  my son became sick on the weekend, naturally.  The Deerslayer was a toddler at the time and I was still a nervous, newish mom.  I called Doc and he told me to bring The Deerslayer down to his weekend farm cabin and he would give make sure he was okay.  When I arrived he was hammering on the porch he was constructing with his best friend, and fellow physician, in tow.   Doc gave the tiny Deerslayer the once over and pronounced he would need some antibiotics to get well.  He then proceeded to scrounge up a torn piece of paper and write a prescription on it.  I was more than slightly mortified at the time.  How was I supposed to take that to the pharmacist?!  I was a dignified city girl for heavens sakes!   Well, the pharmacist just chuckled and filled the prescription tout suite.  He told me I should have been glad that Doc hadn't written it on a piece of toilet paper.

That certainly wasn't the last time that he gave care to any member of my family during his, "off hours".  

And so.... I am savoring my last few days of winter break before school begins on Monday.  I am also contemplating how the new year will be without Doc in it.....as are so many other people in Smalltownland.

"Time is a dress maker specializing in alterations."  

Faith Baldwin  

38 comments:

  1. We all have people who leave great wonderful marks on our hearts, and we carry that with us forever.
    All the best to his family (extended and otherwise) at this time.

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  2. What a beautiful tribute. Small town and rural medicine is a calling I believe. Your doctor friend served far beyond anything he needed to do in his medical capacity and the impact he has made clearly will live on. I hope many will follow his example. Thanks for sharing and I'm deeply sorry for your loss.

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  3. I don't think they make them like him (Doc) anymore. So sorry for the loss to you, his family and the community that obviously loved him very much.

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  4. So sorry to hear of the loss of your beloved doc. We also had a smalltown doc growing up, how I miss those days. My grandfather was a country doctor and I still have his "prescription ledger". It seems a tablespoon of whiskey would cure almost anything. Happy New Year to you and your family.

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  5. So sorry to hear that, but what a wonderful blessing to have him in your life. I can't imagine life anywhere but in a small town and count my blessings every day. God bless you in the new year.

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  6. Oh,so sorry to hear about the loss of such a special friend and that over the holidays too! Sincere condolences...

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  7. So sorry for your loss..He sounds like a wonderful Doctor, and Friend!

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  8. Not sure if the Doc was a by product of days gone by when they made house calls etc. or he was simply a no-nonsense, common sense practitioner that wasn't just a job but a vocation - also known as living angels. I suspect the latter.

    The photo certainly fits with your story and reminds me of days gone by.

    RIP Doc.

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  9. what a wonderful, giving man! i am sorry for your loss - for the loss of your entire community. someone who cannot be replaced...

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  10. Your physician sounds incredible. I love how he touched the lives of your family. Sorry to hear that he passed.

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  11. That's just so sad that such a wonderful person is lost to you all. You are so enriched that you had him in your life.

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  12. Such a big loss to you and your town...and all of us as we say good by to the true 'helpers' that serve with love, devotion and common sense. xo

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  13. It sounds as if he will have a lasting legacy. Changed days in medicine now.

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  14. We had a Dr.that did the same thing. House calls, Sunday office calls if needed. No dogs, his animal of choice were horses.

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  15. I am sorry to hear of the loss of Doc...he sounds like he was a great man that touched the lives of all he served.

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  16. Sorry for this loss......for your family and the town....you all were Blessed to have had such a caring physician.....I know he will be missed.. thanks for sharing

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  17. This made me remember how he gave me a prescription on a block of wood. No joke. Will miss him!!

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  18. That's a great story. I'm glad you wrote it, he deserves to be remembered.

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  19. I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for your comments and many wishes for a brighter new year.

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  20. Bless you for your good heart! And a happy new year!

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  21. This is a beautiful memorial to your friend and doctor, Farmchick. You should write similar remembrances to your other close friends and share them while they are still here. Beautiful!

    Happy new year!

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  22. A real doctor...a healer, a caregiver for his fellow man! I love this man and regret that you, your family and town have lost him! Even when I was young (eons ago ;-) this kind of doctor was fading from the scene...that you had him for so long is a blessing! You've written a fine tribute for him!

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  23. He sounds like a good man. You all were very fortunate to have him in Smalltownland.

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  24. It is rare to hear something good about a doctor today, I am sure he was a good man and a competent phisician.

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  25. Sounds like he was a very nice guy. This is a great tribute to him.

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  26. To the best of my knowledge, we have not been properly introduced yet. Sooo...
    Hello :)
    I am Grace.
    And it's very nice to meet you.

    Your blog is gorgeous and somewhat ethereal...with its amazing photo's and well written posts. It has an earnestness and a sincerity and that is very striking.

    Well Done!

    And on that subject, what a lovely tribute to your friend the Doc.

    The post was so very reflective and obviously penned with love in your heart.

    The black and white "city-scape" of the little town with shops decorated for Christmas did put me in mind of the movie "It's A Wonderful Life".

    The whole small town Americana vibe was conveyed so well.

    Again, this was such a sweet reflection on The Doc's life.
    And clearly not only your family, but the whole town has lost a friend and an icon.

    Please accept my condolences.

    Though we don't really know each other, I am touched and saddened the loss of your friend The Doc.

    May your days of intense sadness be short, and your time of wonderful memories will be long.

    In Him,
    Grace

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  27. So sorry to hear you lost a treaured friend. A touching story and one you would only hear about from a small town. We raised our boys in a small mountain community and I know how much your whole town will miss him.
    Wishing you and your family the best in the New Year.

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  28. Happy New Year to you!

    Oh, I'm so sorry about your doctor and friend. I can relate to having this type of small town doctor. We had the same...even came to our house to give immunizations one time because my boys were freaking out at all the varied doctors we had recently visited to get an autism diagnosis. I've called him on weekend and gotten him off his tractor. ha. He retired a couple of years ago and I cried for a week, so can't imagine a death. What a loss. I'm so sorry.

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  29. Oh my..what a story and how this will affect so many people. One man...like a village of one. This is what I am trying to figure out right now for me...how can I live a life of goodness for the rest of my days....May you have a Happy New Year and I will do a kind deed in your doctor's name....xoxo

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  30. so sorry for you loss...too bad there aren't more Doctors like that...Happy New Year...

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  31. Michele you have such a precious way of describing our Doc, that took care of three generations of our family. We loved him dearly.

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  32. Farmchick -- Your doctor friend will be a great loss for your community. His type of "doctoring" is becoming a thing of the past.

    Your header is fabulous. Like the four photos in a line. All the photos in the header are so charming.

    -- barbara

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  33. My father was the other doctor hammering away on the porch; in the days when the local GPs did obstetrics, it was he who delivered SAM and Flyboy. His friend was a young man contemplating his career choices when my parents came to Smalltownland; my father was not long out of med school himself then, and encouraged the college student to pursue medicine.

    He was also my GP. The last time I saw him as a patient was for a ganglion cyst (a "Bible cyst", as the old folks say) on my wrist that was muting the nerves in three fingers on my writing hand. He told me the "Bible cyst" story and jokingly offered to use the Physician's Desk Reference on it, but then in seriousness offered to refer me to a prominent hand surgeon if it didn't go away (it did).

    Dad is thoroughly devastated by the loss of his best friend, but I am overcome by the fact that SAM, Flyboy, and several other younger men who were their friends have rallied around Daddy. Dad is elderly and this loss has made him fragile in ways that I never anticipated.

    Farmchick, that was not how I wanted to run into you over the holidays. Seems like the funeral home is the only place I see anyone these days, and this was one I would have given anything to delay by several years.

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  34. that is a wonderful remembrance, God Speed to Doc.

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  35. I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your beloved community doctor. His type are hard to find these days and I know he'll be missed.

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  36. I am sorry to hear of your loss in the community. It was nice that you did this little tribute in the Doctors memory.

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